Saturday, October 14, 2006
Loving each other--It CAN be a good thing
| Wow,
when I think about being in love with Dustin and how our relationship
is really working, I feel sad when I read where others are having
problems with their relationships.
Okay, so we haven't been
together but for a couple of months, but it just keeps getting better
and better. Yes, we don't see eye-to-eye on everything (like ketchup
and mayonnaise hahaha), but on the important things we do take the time
to talk things out and that seems to settle it.
I think talking,
just communicating up front, must be really important in a
relationship. Not internalizing things is really important. And Dustin,
in the past, has been one to keep things inside and very private. But
he is working hard to talk about things that bother him early on. I
never have been one to hold things in very long. So we work to keep
everything out in the open so things don't get clogged up inside us and
cause a problem later on.
And I have found that our open
communication helps in more than just keeping problems out of our
relationship. It helps me see just how much he loves me, and that is so
important to me. My self image has not always been very healthy, but
knowing he loves me and is committed to our relationship helps me a lot
with that.
It just feels so good to go to bed at night and know
the person I am holding loves me, believes in me, and really cares
about everything that impacts me. it means that I can be transparent
with him.
If you are in a relationship that is one of those that
is rocky, try to open up the lines of communication. Spend some quality
time with your lover just talking to him. Be sure to take ownership of
things that bother you and not just try to persuade him that he is
wrong.
Okay, maybe I am not a real authority on relationships,
but I know this works. And if you are having problems, don't be afraid
to get help. I think there are a lot of professionals here who ARE
authorities on relationship building. Talk to them.
Oh, and BTW,
what Dustin said about not doing to well on Saturday is a crock! In the
films, it showed just how good a game he did play. So don't let him
bullshit you about not being good. |
Posted at 06:23 am by energyball
